Why are we so hard on our friends?

I just had to share this story, because it makes a good point (which I will get to when I am done!)

I went to meet a friend of mine, about my new skincare line. So I packed my little bag of goodies, and sales material. We sat at her house and had a cup of coffee, laughed and caught up on each others lives, it was great. I really do love catching up with friends!
So we start talking about my skincare and makeup line, shes starts asking about every ingredient, why did they use that? She starts picking the makeup apart and literally just bashing anything and everything I have to say, even if she liked the product. I told her it was ok if she didn't like it, but asked why she was tearing apart everything from ingredients to packaging? She said that she just gets tired of all of her friends trying to sell her stuff (just an FYI, she knew that's why I was coming over) and that most of these types of products don't work and that I am making a huge mistake when you can get most of this stuff at the store. I was a little blown away but held my cool.
I asked her why she felt that way, and explained I make a full time living by working from home, that I sell products that I believe in and know that they work. I wouldn't make anyone buy from me, but would at least like a chance. If my friends or family say No, then its no. Not a big deal.
She continued about ingredients, and so I showed her that my company has nothing to hide, we have all our ingredients online next to the products. I excused myself to the restroom for a moment to take a deep breath. It was in there I noticed she had a lot of products that contain the very things she was complaining about! What, really?

Normally I don't do this but in this case I felt it was necessary, I called her out. I asked why she was picking about my products when the products she was using have worse ingredients and didn't work at all (her words)? She proceeded to tell me she wanted me to make sure I knew what I was selling and that she was helping me (WHAT?!!?)
 I asked her if she gave the associate at the store such a hard time, when she picked up her other products, she look stunned! She said "well no of course not, they don't make it!" So I just stared at her for a second. waited for her own words to sink in........ after a long pause I said well, they sell it shouldn't they know everything that is in it, why they sell it and everything about the company that does make the product? you could see that what I was saying was sinking in. So I continued..... and if you picked it out on your own then did you do your research, did you google it, review it and did you ask for proof of the ingredients, or did you pick it up based on smell, price or maybe a friend said it was awesome?

So I packed up my things to head out, she apologized and said she didn't realize what an ass she had been to so many of her friends that work for companies, like mine. She said that so many of her friends are in business that she often feels overwhelmed and bombarded. I told her I totally agree with her, but I would rather support any of them, then these huge stores that don't really care about your $30.00 purchase. I told her most of us work harder then most because we learn our companies, our products and work hard to bring you the best of the best products. Plus we have to deal with people that tell us, they would rather buy from some store then us. I know many hardworking people, like me, that get told no 100 times before 1 yes, and yet we make a living for our families everyday.

Our relationship has been a little shaky but she and I are trying to move past this day. but the reason I tell you this story is that it brings up a good point, why are we so hard on our friends that sell stuff? I know that you may not need everything that every one of your friends sells, and that's OKAY, just tell us! But jumping through hoops, being hard on them, making them feel like their career choice is not ok, is just harsh. I know that you feel bombarded with ads, Facebook invites and texts, phone calls etc but think about it, how many ads a day do you see on TV, on your Facebook, or any other social media, even YouTube.com has commercial!  I personally would rather be bombarded by friends and families ads, then a million other companies that don't care who I am. I post about my business because I do love my products and I think it would be great for whoever sees it. yes I am hoping that one day, you may see a post and think Hey I want to try that, but really I just want your support. I want to invite you try my products without the 3rd degree, I would love to have coffee with you, just to see how your family is. My life is not always about my business, but my business is what supports my family. So who would you rather support? The CEO that has 3 house or a friend you know deserves it?

All I ask is that you think before you act out with your friends in business. If its not a product for you, its ok to politely tell us no. Maybe you could help by telling your friends or hosting a party (most are online anyway) what does it hurt you to help a friend? I know that I do, I am fully supportive of my friends that own their own business, even if I don't need their products. I cheer them on, support their climbs up the companies laters, and even host parties so they may get a few new customers. And maybe just maybe help my friends and family. Maybe they have been looking for a product/service  like the one I am selling or that another business partner is selling.

Love to you all and I hope that if anything you got a good laugh out of this story and hopefully the warm and fuzzy feeling!

www.bellasarabeauty.com to find out more about who I am! 

Job Vs Business....your vote?

Ok here is the scenarios .... comment your choice below.


You get offered a job and here are the details: Its a Monday thru Friday 9-5, no nights or weekends. But you have to be there every day and the boss is so so, a little temper, but not terrible.It's hard work and demanding but you can do it! It pays $65K a year with a $1 an hour pay raise, after 1 year (if you work really hard) , you get 2 weeks paid vacation, and typical holidays off. There is a slight chance for promotions but only if someone retires (pretty much). Sound pretty good right?

 Offer number 2 you get offered a business opportunity and here are the details: It is $99.00 to join, you work whenever you need to but approximately 30 hours a week to make good money. You picked the business opportunity so you know you will enjoy it. It is hard work and you have to be dedicated because your income depends on it. you can make $10k a year or $100K a year (or more because there is no cap) it depends on your hard work. You get vacation as much, or as little, as you want, and holidays off also. Promotions are based on the business you choose but are usually offered for your hard work. 



So one is based on you being a model employee and the other is based on your hard work for yourself.. which would you choose? What would make more sense for your family, lifestyle and happiness?

www.bellasarabeauty.com

People say I am crazy....they are correct!

I have lived my whole life doing what I was supposed to do. I had a 9-5 job, I did everything the way society told me to do it, and I was successful by definition. At least on the outside, but on the inside, I was miserable. I am sure many of you can relate! 

I hated the job I was doing, I went to work dreading it every day. I had money but no time, I worked 60+ hours a week. It seemed like every 5 years or so my life crumbled and I sat asking myself whyyyyyyyy! Then I'd picked myself back up and go back to doing the same miserable life, But I always made the best of it, I worked hard and was dedicated to my daughter. I was able to buy things for us but never could take a vacation or take time to relax and enjoy my success. I always knew there had a better way but was afraid, because I was always told this is how to take care of my responsibility, I was never taught another way. Until I was introduced to MLM's and found there is a way, but could I do it?  was it expensive? and a million other questions. I failed at a couple the first few times, mostly because I didn't like what I was selling (or only at least most of it). I was selling for the money not the people or the product. I found a company that I enjoyed and started to do very well, even just party time. So here I was making even more money, but at least the part time job was fun and my daughter and I can do it together, so I didn't mind that part. 

 Well in 2014 my life came crashing down. I was in a motorcycle accident. and the snowball started I lost my job shortly after that, I fell into a severe depression that turned into PTSD, I almost lost my home, all my bills got behind and the down hill slide kept going. 

I made a decision to never go back to the world I was living in, I get told I am crazy, lazy and irresponsible for not just getting back up AGAIN to the world's idea of responsible. Some of my own family barely talks to me anymore. I hear the whispers behind my back, but I just can't handle it anymore. I enjoy being home doing what I wanted to do , I hang out with my kiddo, my mom and my GG. I finally have a clean house, all the time. I was enjoying life finally, just one LITTLE thing wrong, I had very little income coming in and things were falling apart fast. So I started to work MLM's more regularly and was doing pretty  good, but then I added more and more and more and soon I didn't like much about any of them. I didn't feel any of them so its only been so/so. 
 I do make money selling stuff online, and I will definitely keep doing that. As for Network Marketing, I love it and I am still doing it but I am just taking a step back and deciding on a company that works for me and my goals. I am speaking with many of my mentors in my up-line and successful people across the business. 
I am now choosing based on my needs, wants and goals. I love anything beauty....Makeup, skincare, health, fitness, fashion, and self confidence. Those are still what Ill stick with...so stand by and see what I am doing, new things are in the horizons and I want all of you to join me!! I know that many will never be happy with my choices, and you know what that's ok, because their choice to be a hater, not mine. 

I am crazy, crazy enough to live life by my rules, by doing what makes me happy and enjoy this life not just walking the path everyone wants to me to do. 
I am building a life I want to live and don't dread to wake up to every day, and if that's crazy so be it! 
www.bellasarabeauty.com

Take out the fluff...give me the truth!

The truth about MLM's?  You really want it? Are you ready for the truth? Can you handle it, I am ready to tell you my truth about the MLM business. Ok here is my opinion of the MLM world. 

First off I love it, really I do. Are there days I want to give up and get frustrated...absolutely! MLM's are the business that almost anyone can afford to do. First off you need to get over the premonition that you should never have to pay to work for someone. This is a business, your not paying to work for someone else, your paying for an already proven system to make money. Your paying for the right to be associated with that company, similar to a franchise. With that being said they are not easy. If anyone says this is easy money and you can sit on your couch and watch the money come in, is lying .....seriously.  Yes I do get to work from home, and I take off whenever I want but when I work, I work hard and sometimes for days on end. 

This is a business, just like anything else you would buy or start. You must work hard, the nice thing about most MLM's is you can do it part time and still pay your bills with your full time job. You can build a empire or just enough to make the house payment, the choice is yours. Which is hard to say in about 80% of the jobs out there. You can move up, maybe bonus, vacation time, and some great perks, but unless you own the company, there is always a limit on the money you can make. I like knowing that however hard I work Ill get paid for it. Its hard for many people to get used to the concept of commission though. If you don't work you don't get paid. You hear of many people that say they didn't make any money, or not much and when you ask how hard they work they always tell me they work their butt off, but after talking to them more its often NOT the case. I have seen so many success stories, but they worked hard. Most of the time I do what they call a 90 day run. I work as hard as possible for 90 days and then I take 30 days off. I did that until I had the money to  quit my full time job, now I spend a little time every day working on my business. the difference is this, I make my schedule around my personal life, I take vacation whenever I want and don't have to submit for approval to my manager. 

The other nice thing about MLM's is there is thousands of different companies, so there is usually one for just about every person interest. I am not knock the jobs in the world, because MLM's are not for everyone, but what I am saying its an industry that everyone has the opportunity. Everyone can do it but not everyone wants to. If you want something different I say give it a try, most business start up cost in upwards of 20K and most of these range from $100-$1700 USD and so its really not a huge investment for the opportunity. Do your homework, ask questions and go with the company that best suits you. This business is about relationships and doing something you love so if you love the company then selling it becomes easy. 

So if you want to give it a try or just have questions let me know, I'd be happy to answer.  No pressure on joining my team or anything. I just like to be real about what I do so that people can get a real idea of what its like in this world. 


www.bellasarabeauty.com

Are we picking on the wrong industry?

It's pretty much 80% of the population that thinks that MLM,  Network Marketing, Direct Sales, Relationship Marketing (or whatever your company is calling itself), is nothing but a scam or doesn't work. What we really are is part of a business that allows us to sell their products and in return we make money and earn freedom. But so many people have a negative thoughts on this, some for valid reason. Maybe they got burned by an up-line, maybe they were promised riches that the didn't get, or you know someone who knows someone who didn't succeed. Some are just negative about what they don't know or understand.  What ever the reasons I have to tell you that I think your wrong.

Yes I said it out loud, I am tired of my industry getting a bad rap!  As with any industry there are some bad apples, some horrible companies and some down right sneaky tactics. But I have dealt with much more in the "real job" world. At least in MLM I can chose to ignore them or steer my business in a different direction. Can you ignore your boss, or steer in a different direction if you don't like the company? The answer is mostly no, if you don't like it you have to change jobs or hope that you can make a difference in your current job.
    Just like with any career choice, this is not for everyone the difference in my business verse a "real" job is that anyone CAN do it.  Its system you follow to lead to sales, recruiting and success. You can find an industry you like (there are hundreds of Direct sales companies to chose from) and learn. Many jobs you have to have an education or experience or start at a minimum wage and work your way up. For some people that is a great choice but for others Network Marketing is the great choice.
Yes most cost money to start up, and for many that's where they think the "scam" starts. why should you have to buy anything to join?..... Good Question. Here is the reply, if you bought a store business like McDonald's, Subway, Walmart, do you have to pay to buy into it? If you start your own at home business, don't you have to buy supplies, accounting software, you have to have a car, computer, gas, clothes etc, depending on your business. You buy into marketing and you look to your friends and family to support your grand opening and refer you people ...right? Many of us help people with their business all the time. The lady selling my house right now was a referral from a friend, so why is it so hard for people to take my business seriously?  I have tried several of the products out there in Direct sales and some are amazing and some are so so but I'd say 75% of them are better then any big store brands. And I know I am supporting real people who need the income.
Yes there are pyramid schemes, that are scammers out there. If they don't have a products to sell or promise easy money, I suggest RUNNING as fast as you can away from it. But 90% of these companies are legit and people make good money. But you have to work hard, you have to dedicate time and energy, just like a job, a business, a franchise or whatever you chose. Nothing comes without work, except maybe a lucky few.

I made a career choice, just like many of you. I have supported many friends in their business or career choice because I like what they sold, or I trusted their opinion, or because I support the cause but many don't support me because what I do is crazy or a scheme. I am not knocking anyone for their career choice I am just wondering why so many knock mine? Or why no one supports me by buying from me, hosting a party or referring people to me. I have people that sell cars, sell houses, do charity work, work at schools and I will support them in anyway, even if they never support me. I am not whining I am just asking the question.......why?

The next time someone (like me) asks you to do an at home party, host one online, or ask you to try their products or even want to sit down and show you what we do, realize we took time to think of you. We don't do it to bug you or guilt you, we really think that we have something you would benefit from. We want you to love our products or business, like we do. We just want you to be as excited as we are about our future, even if you don't buy our products.If you don't like or need them. refer people to us, just like you would any other business. We appreciate the fact you cared enough to support our business in anyway. We want to succeed in our business, just like anyone who starts up something, we are starting something that excites us and that alone should be reason enough for you to support us.



With that being said I would like to actually Thank those who have supported me, joined me or will in the future...Thank you it means the world to me and my family!

www.bellasarabeauty.com

MLM never work, they are such a scam!

So the last few days I've been working on taking care of things for myself. I have made a lot of strides mentally, emotional, physically and now its time financially. I have had so many people tell me that joining network marketing (MLM, Relationship Marketing) wasn't a real job, that it would never work and on and on and on. I have even had people in the industry tell me it doesn't work. People have tried this or that company and it cost them more then it made. Well I have something to say, your wrong. I am not trying to offend anyone. There is some good and some bad with MLM but it does work. The problem is people seem to think you don't need to do anything, that its very little effort. The truth is that Network Marketing is alot like another career path, except the payout is much higher! both money and personally. The truth is that most people just want the easy way out and don't want to pay any money to get into business for themselves.

People have been told that MLM are a pyramid scheme, that they are joke, that no one except the top are successful, you name it, I have heard it. I even used to agree, because I had tried a few and failed at all of them. Then I started with my current MLM and it hit me, it wasn't the company or the industry, it was me! When I joined this company, I had training, support and real people around me that were working from home and making end meet and more. These weren't some people paid to talk, they were real people like you and me, that just took the business and worked their butt's off until they made it. I soon realized that is doesn't matter which MLM company you choose, as long as you chose one with a product you can be comfortable selling and a company you believe in.

The business I chose was worth way more then I was putting into it. This business was my way to everything I had wanted....more time with my family, more money, more time to pursue my passions, but I was to busy being cynical about believing in it. I didn't believe it would work for me, I didn't want to bother my friends and family.

Then a profound statement was said to me:

"You job is not to convince others to join you, your job is to give everyone enough information to make a decision for themselves, no pressure"

That right there was what I needed to hear, I don't need to make someone buy my products or join my company, I need to share with everyone I know and let them decide. My job was to keep moving and keep talking and showing! Once the pressure was off of me it was easier to take the pressure off others. Now I still have people that doubt me and what I do, but now I just move on and keep talking to everyone I know and everyone I meet. Because I know what I am doing works, I don't need to convince anyone of this, even myself!

If at some point in life you change your thinking and want to take this journey with me I will welcome you and if you never decide to join me, I just ask that you not trash my business as I don't trash what you do for a living.

www.bellasarabeauty.com

So wait.....Women are supposed to lift each other up?

I see it more and more every day, women bashing other women. I was guilty of it in my past, when I was insecure. And lets me honest and real...that's where it all comes from, being insecure.  It's time we admit our own insecurities instead of bashing another person.  Yes some women dress to provocatively and to much makeup, some are to plain and don't show anything. BUT putting anyone down is wrong. Did it ever occur to you to ask why women look, think or act a certain way?  Everyone has a why, maybe instead of bashing you should be asking why? 

I believe that women bashing other women has more to do with how they are feeling about themselves and little to do with the women they are bashing. Women need to work on themselves instead of putting down others. You will notice that the better you feel about yourself the less you feel the need to put others down. We must be honest with ourselves as to why we treat others badly. I know myself I had to a take a long look in the mirror years ago. 

I was one of the caddie girls that always talked smack about other girls. I looked in that mirror and realized it was easier to talk about other girls then to deal with my own confidence. Many people don't understand that. Back in my twenties I was thin, beautiful and dabbled in modeling, so what did I have to hate about myself? I had plenty that I didn't like about myself, I had image issues, I had a failed marriage, I became a single parent, lost a lot of my friends, and numerous other small things in my twenties. I had a lot of ups and downs in those years and because of that I felt that it was OK to put down others. But I was wrong and its time that we all realize that its time to stop! Its not the music, its not even men (even though some don't help!), our family, or anything else. We need to start taking better care of ourselves. We need to empower ourselves and one another! 

So I suggest that the next time you feel the need to put others down, STOP! Start working on yourself and you will see that there is no need to open your mouth. I also suggest that maybe instead of being mean to another, try to talk to them. You may not make friends with everyone but at least you tried to be a stand up person. You will soon see that by empowering others you feel even better about yourself. Because the sooner we realize that the way to happiness is to see other happiness, the better of this whole world will be. 

I know that I feel better that I know longer put others down, that I try to help anyone I can and that my happiness lies in my own confidence and in getting up everyday trying to help others. 

www.bellasarabeauty.com

What do I do exactly?

Everyone asks, so what is your business?, what do you sell?, who do you work for?. The answer is simply, I work for me! I do sell makeup, skincare and wraps/supplements, as a majority of my income (so yes I am not bashful-buy from me!!) but the biggest reason I went into business for myself was to help women (especially young women) feel good about themselves. I want all of us to feel truly beautiful inside and out!  I want women to know that each one of us are something special! I want us to believe in ourselves and  look in the mirror and think "I am fantastic!!" 

I started BellaSara Beauty to create a place that women are free to be themselves and feel confident about it.  I think that beauty tips, tricks, makeup, skincare, supplements and/or anything that help us feel our best, then its for us. I believe that, first you must be confident, in yourself.  These things should aid in making ourselves a more beautiful self, not a completely different person.  Cosmetics, plastic surgery, weight loss drugs, or anything that you think will make you feel better, won't help at all if  you don't first accept yourself flaws and all. It's OK to want change, BUT it has to come from within yourself and your confidence, not what the world thinks you should change. 

So I sell beauty products, I am a motivational speaking, and I do coaching, one on one, to encourage you to find the best you! If your interested in any of these, check out my website at www.bellasarabeauty.com

Or check out my facebook page www.facebook.com/bellsarabeauty

BIG ass or Little ass....WHO CARES!

It just kills me to see women singing songs, talking and/or gossiping about their bodies being better then another body shape, and you wonder why ladies are so confused about what is ok???

The trend these days is big butts and last season it was skinny waists, and before that it was big boobs, before that it was girls that were skinny with no curve, and all 90's raps songs seemed to talk about them "thick" girls. My question is shouldn't it matter more that the girl with ANY of these body shapes to love themselves? 

Does it really matter that Kim's ass is huge? If she likes it, who cares. But should every girl all the sudden have to be like her, to be attractive? Since its the latest trend, what about really pretty women that don't have a huge ass or money for implants? Should women like Megan sing about how her curves are better then those skinny chicks? Or Magazine posting all over how thick is sexier then thin? People seem to see it everywhere and yet very few do anything to change that way of thinking. 

Its ridiculous to me that women are putting other women's bodies down just so that they feel better about their bodies. Its great if your proud of your body but not at the expense of another person. 

The hard part for me is women should be encouraging each-other to be happy with who they are. Helping each-other chase dreams, tell them the honest truth when they need to hear it, not being pinned up against each-other. It just needs to stop, stop comparing. I have friends who are all shapes and sizes and I personally find them beautiful, every single one of them. We are all made differently, just like men. Women and Men are all attracted to different views of beautiful so stop trying to make yourself look like what the crowd says is beautiful and be your own kind of beautiful and Ladies be proud of your own body and look, but don't ever put another women down that doesn't look like you. Have Class and Confidence in everything you do! 

You are all beautiful!!!

www.bellasarabeauty.com

Make-up or no Make-up? The Dilemma

I, myself am a total make-up junkie, so to answer that question I say YES to make-up. But I know there are some women out there that don't see the point. So who is right? is it better to wear none or some, or lots?  There is surveys, studies, men's  Q&A and still the decision is split. You know why? Because its a matter of personal preference. 

I have seen gorgeous women with out any make-up and fabulous women with designer make-up and they are both beautiful!  Its not about if you wear make-up or not, its about your confidence. You need to feel good with your choice. It doesn't matter what I think, your BFF thinks, or even your man. It matters that when you look in the mirror, you like what you see! If your feeling confident and feel like your on top of the world then it doesn't matter if you do or don't. Enjoy who you are, from the inside out. If your not happy with your outward appearance  then you need to look internal first. Before you change your appearance and try to change into someone your not. Look inside and change yourself and then you will find your confidence and decide for yourself if make-up or no make-up, Do what works for you, I know for me, I do both.  Some days I feel like make-up and full on look! Other day's I like the clean no make-up, hair in a ponytail and relaxed. Everyone would agree that nothing is more beautiful then confidence, so do whats the best for you and above all LOVE YOURSELF!!


                                                       www.bellasarabeauty.com

Break-up's...... the new make-over addiction?

You break up with someone, your cry, you laugh and then you head out to be an even better you! With people not getting married and/or not staying together very long these days, I see this trend more and more. I have even been guilty of it. I have had some bad breakup's and when I am ready to face the world I go get a new hair cut, color, hit the gym, get a new outfit or any mix of these. 

So is it ok, or just a haha I'll show him?!? Does it even matter?

As I watch a friend of mine go through a break up, I am doing what any friend would do.  I am showing up to make sure she isn't crying all day, getting her out of the house and trying my best to make her laugh. I listen to her cry, get angry and push past the break up.  I have been through a couple of break-up's with her and I know she will get past this even though, right now she can't see it, but she will. I know in a month or two she will be ready to hit the gym and look like her amazing self. She will do what many of us do, she will wake up one morning tired of wallowing in her depression and ready to be a whole new her! 
When she is ready she will do what many of us do. get out there and be strong, confident and transform ourselves into that person we know we are!  It will be a new hair-do, losing weight, new make-up, new wardrobe, new shoes, counseling, a new hobby. It might be a million things or just one change, but it will make you feel confident, powerful and alive.  So does it matter that we have to change after anything major, like a break up?

I don't think it does, I think it is our expression that we made it through, that we didn't let it ruin us. Its our way of showing ourselves that we can survive and flourish. That what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. So I don't think it really matter why we make ourselves over, if we are doing because we are truly wanting to feel better for ourselves. If we are doing to it to show that we made it through our tough times. If your doing it just to show off, out of anger it will never work. So make sure if your making over yourself, that its for you and only you! YOU need to shine from in the inside out! 

www.bellasarabeauty.com 

New Year New Blog! (PANACHE)

As an Image Consultant I have decided to start a new blog for the new year. So what is beauty? Is it only skin deep, is there more? I say its all up to you....Beauty is how each person See's it. We have beauty and fashion trends but that's only a majority of the people, there are millions of others that never follow the trends. 

I have found that if you are truly happy with yourself, you are your most beautiful. I have learned that no matter how picture perfect you may appear inside or out, you will never be perfect to everyone. I have found the one thing that most people find across the planet is that if someone likes themselves are more beautiful no matter what. That is what I teach love yourself, change if you want to, So here is my word to you Panache....Live it! Til my next blog...Be good to yourself! 

www.bellsarabeauty.com

Have you ever heard the word Panache? Here is the Definition:

pa·nache

pəˈnaSH,pəˈnäSH/

noun

1. 1.

   flamboyant confidence of style or manner.

   "he entertained Palm Springs society with great panache"

   synonyms:

   flamboyance, confidence, self-assurance, style, flair, elan, dash, verve,zest, spirit, brio, éclat, vivacity, gusto,  liveliness, vitality, energy; informalpizzazz, oomph, zip, zing