MLM never work, they are such a scam!

So the last few days I've been working on taking care of things for myself. I have made a lot of strides mentally, emotional, physically and now its time financially. I have had so many people tell me that joining network marketing (MLM, Relationship Marketing) wasn't a real job, that it would never work and on and on and on. I have even had people in the industry tell me it doesn't work. People have tried this or that company and it cost them more then it made. Well I have something to say, your wrong. I am not trying to offend anyone. There is some good and some bad with MLM but it does work. The problem is people seem to think you don't need to do anything, that its very little effort. The truth is that Network Marketing is alot like another career path, except the payout is much higher! both money and personally. The truth is that most people just want the easy way out and don't want to pay any money to get into business for themselves.

People have been told that MLM are a pyramid scheme, that they are joke, that no one except the top are successful, you name it, I have heard it. I even used to agree, because I had tried a few and failed at all of them. Then I started with my current MLM and it hit me, it wasn't the company or the industry, it was me! When I joined this company, I had training, support and real people around me that were working from home and making end meet and more. These weren't some people paid to talk, they were real people like you and me, that just took the business and worked their butt's off until they made it. I soon realized that is doesn't matter which MLM company you choose, as long as you chose one with a product you can be comfortable selling and a company you believe in.

The business I chose was worth way more then I was putting into it. This business was my way to everything I had wanted....more time with my family, more money, more time to pursue my passions, but I was to busy being cynical about believing in it. I didn't believe it would work for me, I didn't want to bother my friends and family.

Then a profound statement was said to me:

"You job is not to convince others to join you, your job is to give everyone enough information to make a decision for themselves, no pressure"

That right there was what I needed to hear, I don't need to make someone buy my products or join my company, I need to share with everyone I know and let them decide. My job was to keep moving and keep talking and showing! Once the pressure was off of me it was easier to take the pressure off others. Now I still have people that doubt me and what I do, but now I just move on and keep talking to everyone I know and everyone I meet. Because I know what I am doing works, I don't need to convince anyone of this, even myself!

If at some point in life you change your thinking and want to take this journey with me I will welcome you and if you never decide to join me, I just ask that you not trash my business as I don't trash what you do for a living.

www.bellasarabeauty.com

So wait.....Women are supposed to lift each other up?

I see it more and more every day, women bashing other women. I was guilty of it in my past, when I was insecure. And lets me honest and real...that's where it all comes from, being insecure.  It's time we admit our own insecurities instead of bashing another person.  Yes some women dress to provocatively and to much makeup, some are to plain and don't show anything. BUT putting anyone down is wrong. Did it ever occur to you to ask why women look, think or act a certain way?  Everyone has a why, maybe instead of bashing you should be asking why? 

I believe that women bashing other women has more to do with how they are feeling about themselves and little to do with the women they are bashing. Women need to work on themselves instead of putting down others. You will notice that the better you feel about yourself the less you feel the need to put others down. We must be honest with ourselves as to why we treat others badly. I know myself I had to a take a long look in the mirror years ago. 

I was one of the caddie girls that always talked smack about other girls. I looked in that mirror and realized it was easier to talk about other girls then to deal with my own confidence. Many people don't understand that. Back in my twenties I was thin, beautiful and dabbled in modeling, so what did I have to hate about myself? I had plenty that I didn't like about myself, I had image issues, I had a failed marriage, I became a single parent, lost a lot of my friends, and numerous other small things in my twenties. I had a lot of ups and downs in those years and because of that I felt that it was OK to put down others. But I was wrong and its time that we all realize that its time to stop! Its not the music, its not even men (even though some don't help!), our family, or anything else. We need to start taking better care of ourselves. We need to empower ourselves and one another! 

So I suggest that the next time you feel the need to put others down, STOP! Start working on yourself and you will see that there is no need to open your mouth. I also suggest that maybe instead of being mean to another, try to talk to them. You may not make friends with everyone but at least you tried to be a stand up person. You will soon see that by empowering others you feel even better about yourself. Because the sooner we realize that the way to happiness is to see other happiness, the better of this whole world will be. 

I know that I feel better that I know longer put others down, that I try to help anyone I can and that my happiness lies in my own confidence and in getting up everyday trying to help others. 

www.bellasarabeauty.com