So wait.....Women are supposed to lift each other up?

I see it more and more every day, women bashing other women. I was guilty of it in my past, when I was insecure. And lets me honest and real...that's where it all comes from, being insecure.  It's time we admit our own insecurities instead of bashing another person.  Yes some women dress to provocatively and to much makeup, some are to plain and don't show anything. BUT putting anyone down is wrong. Did it ever occur to you to ask why women look, think or act a certain way?  Everyone has a why, maybe instead of bashing you should be asking why? 

I believe that women bashing other women has more to do with how they are feeling about themselves and little to do with the women they are bashing. Women need to work on themselves instead of putting down others. You will notice that the better you feel about yourself the less you feel the need to put others down. We must be honest with ourselves as to why we treat others badly. I know myself I had to a take a long look in the mirror years ago. 

I was one of the caddie girls that always talked smack about other girls. I looked in that mirror and realized it was easier to talk about other girls then to deal with my own confidence. Many people don't understand that. Back in my twenties I was thin, beautiful and dabbled in modeling, so what did I have to hate about myself? I had plenty that I didn't like about myself, I had image issues, I had a failed marriage, I became a single parent, lost a lot of my friends, and numerous other small things in my twenties. I had a lot of ups and downs in those years and because of that I felt that it was OK to put down others. But I was wrong and its time that we all realize that its time to stop! Its not the music, its not even men (even though some don't help!), our family, or anything else. We need to start taking better care of ourselves. We need to empower ourselves and one another! 

So I suggest that the next time you feel the need to put others down, STOP! Start working on yourself and you will see that there is no need to open your mouth. I also suggest that maybe instead of being mean to another, try to talk to them. You may not make friends with everyone but at least you tried to be a stand up person. You will soon see that by empowering others you feel even better about yourself. Because the sooner we realize that the way to happiness is to see other happiness, the better of this whole world will be. 

I know that I feel better that I know longer put others down, that I try to help anyone I can and that my happiness lies in my own confidence and in getting up everyday trying to help others. 

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